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Pros and Cons of Arranged Marriage

 Lifestyle Desk Daily-Bangladesh

 Published: 04:53 PM, 28 December 2017  

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Arranged marriage is a traditional matrimonial ceremony which is proceeding all around the world where parents predetermine their child whom they going to marry.

This tradition is still commonly practiced in Bangladesh, India, South Asia, and other parts of the world. Recently it has begun to raise controversy. People are beginning to ask questions about the reasoning and ideas behind these arranged marriages.

Pros of Arranged Marriages
1. The “One”
People who are placed in an arranged marriage do not have to concern about the dating world, or waiting for the “one”. This takes out a lot of stress and anxiety in life.

2. Parental Discretion
Your parents are the ones whom they choose your future partner, so you do not have to worry about them like your spouse. The same goes for having to worry about your in-laws approving of you.

3. Same Morals
Your parents will choose your spouse extremely carefully. They will make sure it is someone who matches your own beliefs and morals to ensure congeniality.

4. Love Grows
You may say there is no love growing in arranged marriage. But that does not mean you are doomed in a loveless marriage. Love takes time but will bloom (hopefully).

Cons of Arranged Marriages

1. Wedding in out of blue
You may feel like it is not your own wedding like you marry a ghost whom you never see in your life. You do not know anything about the person you are marrying nor their family. It is completely done by the families, the bride and groom have very little say in their wedding ceremony.

2. Dating Destitute
When you have an arranged marriage, dating is taken out of the equation. You do not get the chance to figure out what you do and do not like in a partner.

3. Placing Blame
If any marital problems arise between the couple then the parents are often the first to be blamed. The family take the full blame and humiliate if it turns into a divorce because it perceived as their fault.

4. Family Ties
It is inevitable that your family will be highly involved in your life. This includes your married life. This can cause problems between the married couple.

5. Waiting for Love
Love takes a long time to develop. When two people are thrown into a marriage which is not based on the foundation of love, it may take quite some time for these feeling to develop. This can lead to depression, misery, and divorce.